Is My Son Gay or Is a Phase? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS GAY JT A PHASE?
• COULD BEG GAY JT BE A PHASE?
• GAY IS NOT JT A PHASE: THE BIG MOMENT THAT MA US REALISE WE WERE ‘SPECIAL’.
• KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND
• AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
• IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?
• NFL ASSISTANT ACH OUT AS GAY
• NFL ASSISTANT ACH OUT AS GAY
• JAGUARS STRENGTH COACH KEV MAXEN COM OUT AS GAY

IS GAY JT A PHASE?

And if you ever feel asexual or homosexual, misexual or whatever, is what should be. If you have most of the signs you have a 99% chance of beg Gay or BisexualUnfortunately, sometim will take you a while to tly realize how you feel. Gay inty is jt a passg social phenomenon.

COULD BEG GAY JT BE A PHASE?

Lbian and gay inty is doomed.

Like every other exprsn of human culture, homosexualy hasn’t always existed the form we now know , and won’t last forever.

Our morn wtern forms of gay inty, behavur and subculture first began emergg ~hree centuri ago the European ci of Amsterdam, London, Florence and Paris The ia that queers are a distct class of people and ax’e fundamentally different om straights is much more recent; origatg primarily om the normative theori of neteenth century psychology. Jt as the ntemporary nfiguratns of homosexual inty me to beg at a certa moment social velopment, one day they will also fa away.

GAY IS NOT JT A PHASE: THE BIG MOMENT THAT MA US REALISE WE WERE ‘SPECIAL’.

The labels gay and straight are cultural ventns, vised to police sexual sire. In a future more enlightened epoch, when homophobia is vanquished, the differenc between hetero and homo will lose their signifince. The prent separate, exclive sexuali of straight and gay may eventually be supplanted by a more clive, polymorpho sexualy, where the boundari between hetero and homo bee merged and blurred.

Most people will stop fg themselv as straight or gay, and the genr of a person’s sexual partner will cease to terme the social validy (or illegimacy) of their rnal and affectnal feelgs.

KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND

The homosexualy of prent-day wtern societi is, for example, que unlike the homosexualy of ancient Greece and imperial Cha. This n be seen the gradual emergence of gay relatnships between adults of equal social stat sce 1700. The historil emergence of homosexual relatnships on a more egalarian plane begs the qutn: if homosexualy has not always been like is today, surely n jt as easily change aga the future?

This embracg of a gay inty had s begng 18th century Europe, where urban migratn and social persecutn created the ndns for the emrgence of a gay sub-culture.

AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?

There were only homosexual acts, not homosexual people. Ined, the words homosexual and heterosexual were not ed until the mid-neteenth century (largely as a way of medilisg the perceived ‘social menace’ of same-sex sire, wh a view to ‘curg’ ).

Th the notn of ‘the homosexual’ as a distct tegory of person, separate om ‘the heterosexual’, has not been around forever. Jt as there was once a time the past when homosexuals did not exist (only people who had sex wh others of the same genr), perhaps there will also e a moment the future when the word homosexual will stop beg the fn of a type of person and solely functn to scribe a form of behavur. In other words, ‘the homosexual’ will cease to exist (as will ‘the heterosexual’).

This aboln of sexual tegorisatn stroys the social basis for homophobia. The dissolutn of hetero and homo orientatns and inti is th the prendn for any genue, lastg queer emancipatn.

IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?

Peter Tatchell is the thor of Safer Sexy – The Gui To Gay Sex Safely (Freedom Edns).

I was wonrg if some of you have ever gone through a gay/bi phase? This is a very embarassg thg for me to say, but I'm gay. rear, anonymo, wr (26 Augt 2011):It's very unlikely that at your age you are dyed--the-wool gay or straight.

NFL ASSISTANT ACH OUT AS GAY

When I was a young teen, I was nvced I was gay simply bee I did not have femal iends and seemed to be rejected by them. Son, and I see the same so much over beg gay, but over the uncertaty of relatnships, love, sex and self.

I never even wanted to thk about the possibily of beg gay. Rear, anonymo, wr (21 Augt 2011):You uld be bi cur which is like gog through a phase but this is highly irregular and the possiby of you beg gay is higher...

Sendly, if you are sure that you are gay, why are you askg the first place?

NFL ASSISTANT ACH OUT AS GAY

Pot is though that if you have reached a ncln (that you're gay), then that is your answer. Rear, sereny80 +, wr (19 Augt 2011):I've known a uple of mat who, their teens, experimented wh guys, and thought that they were gay, when fact, they weren't.

On the other hand, I've had iends who knew they were gay ever sce they were children. I was 16 and the same thg happened me, I thought I might be gay and uldn't bear to face the fact that might have to be me forever.

But what I will say is that, if you fd the right iends when you leave school ( might be hard right now, I don't thk schools are a very welg place to be gay) and a place you feel at home.

JAGUARS STRENGTH COACH KEV MAXEN COM OUT AS GAY

When I was your age, I was sperately tryg to box myself to a mould, I was gay bi or straight, that's how I thought had to be.

I sometim joke to myself that 'I'm too gay to be straight but too straight t be gay' but I know I'm not bi, that's not the inty I want. “I had my gay awakeng at 9 years old, after stumblg upon a BL Manga” — William, 25 (he/him).