Why "Sex and the Cy" is bad for the gays |

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WHEN SEX AND THE CY RETURNS, WILL IT FALLY GET QUEER PEOPLE RIGHT?THE CLASSIC EDY HAS A TERRIBLE TRACK RERD ON QUEER ISSU, PECIALLY FOR A SHOW WRTEN BY WOMEN AND GAY MEN.BY CASSIE DA COSTAJANUARY 13, 2021FROM GETTY IMAG.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEON SUNDAY, HBO MAX NFIRMED THAT A SEX AND THE CY REBOOT LLED AND JT LIKE THAT… IS OFFICIALLY THE WORKS—AN ANNOUNCEMENT THAT SPIRED FERVENT SPECULATN AMONG FANS AND CRICS. (NOT LEAST BEE THE SHOW IS, TRAGILLY, DOWN ONE LEAD: KIM CATTRALL’S SAMANTHA.) THE ORIGAL SERI WAS FAMOLY NDID, AND OFTEN CLEVER, AS FOLLOWED FOUR IENDS—SAMANTHA, SARAH JSI PARKER’S CARRIE, CYNTHIA NIXON’S MIRANDA, AND KRIST DAVIS’S CHARLOTTE—SNAPPILY DISCSG THE TAILS OF THEIR SEX LIV, DATG PREFERENC, AND PERSONAL ASPIRATNS. BUT S QUIPPY, CY-GIRL TONE HAS AGED UNEVENLY. THOUGH THAT APPROACH WAS WELL-SUED TO A STORY ABOUT PROUDLY IMPERFECT WOMEN, THE SHOW ALSO ED AS A CHEAP EXCE TO CENTER A VERY SPECIFIC VIEWPOT: STRAIGHT WHE AFFLUENCE, AS WRTEN BY STRAIGHT WHE WOMEN AND GAY WHE MEN.FOR THOSE WHO STILL WATCH THE ORIGAL SERI WHENEVER THEY’VE GOT FIVE HOURS TO WASTE AWAY ON THE UCH, ’S NOT HARD TO ACKNOWLEDGE S WRONGHEADNS WHILE ENJOYG S TENACY AND EXTREME WATCHABILY. MUCH LIKE S SCENDANT GIRLS, SATC DRILLED TO EVEN THE MOST SHARPLY CRIL LENNIALS THAT MAY BE ELS TO TRY TO UNTANGLE THOSE CHARACTERISTICS—AND ANYWAY, ’S ALL JT TELEVISN, RIGHT? WHO DON’T ENJOY AN ELEVATED MS?NEWS OF A REBOOT, THOUGH, V TO RENSIR THE SHOW’S TONE AND IAS—AND OFTEN, SEX AND THE CY’S JIB TOOK THE FORM OF HOMOPHOBIA AND TRANSPHOBIA. THROUGHOUT THE URSE OF THE SERI, SAMANTHA GLEEFULLY ED A TRANSPHOBIC SLUR A DIG AGAST SEX WORKERS; CARRIE DOUBTED THE VALIDY OF BISEXUAL MEN; MORE THAN ONE EPISO, LBIANS WERE PORTRAYED AS EXCLIVELY WHE, RICH, AND POWER-HUNGRY. STANFORD (WILLIE GARSON), CARRIE’S TOKEN GAY MALE IEND, WAS MORE OF AN ACCSORY THAN A PERSON; THE SEND SEX AND THE CY MOVIE, HE END UP MARRYG THE ANCHISE’S ONLY OTHER GAY MALE REGULAR, EVEN THOUGH HIS FUTURE HBAND ONCE CHASTISED HIS IEND CHARLOTTE FOR ASSUMG HE’D EVEN BE TERTED STANFORD. (“WHY, BEE HE’S GAY AND I’M GAY?” MAR CANTONE’S ANTHONY ASKED SEASON FOUR. “CHARLOTTE, LET ME CLEAR SOMETHG UP FOR YOU…I ULD DO A LOT BETTER.”)EVEN WHEN SAMANTHA, THE MOST SEXUALLY ADVENTURO OF THE BUNCH, DATED A WOMAN (PLAYED BY THE BELOVED BRAZILIAN ACTOR SôNIA BRAGA), SEX AND THE CY FUMBLED. THE SHOW ED LBIANISM AS A NARRATIVE VICE, PATG AS A STRATEGY BORN OUT OF DATG FATIGUE; THE POSSIBILY THAT SAMANTHA WAS LEGIMATELY CUR OR BISEXUAL WAS NEVER EXPLORED. HER IENDS’ SLY, SELF-CENTERED MENTARY ABOUT HER NEW RELATNSHIP—THAT SAMANTHA WAS SIMPLY A PHASE, THAT SHE WAS DOG THIS FOR ATTENTN—WAS AMED NOT AS GOSSIP, BUT SIGHT.TO THOSE OUTSI OF QUEER MUNI, SUCH A READG MAY E AS A SURPRISE; HOW ULD SEX AND THE CY GET GAY PEOPLE SO WRONG? HOW ULD S OPENLY GAY WRERS—PRIMARILY CREATOR DARREN STAR AND EXECUTIVE PRODUCER MICHAEL PATRICK KG—SORELY MISREPRENT A GROUP THEY’RE A PART OF?BUT ’S OLD NEWS TO NOTE THAT (UALLY UPPER-CLASS) WHE GAY MEN HAVE A SERVED REPUTATN FOR TAKG NSERVATIVE AND EVEN BIGOTED POSNS ABOUT THEIR TRANS, BLACK, LBIAN, OR FAT BRETHREN, ACTG AS IF A MIX OF SELF-HATRED AND DISDA OF THE OTHER IS A CHARMG PERSONALY TRA. ACRDGLY, SEX AND THE CY’S MOST REACTNARY PERSPECTIV ARE NEVER PORTRAYED AS A SOURCE OF SHAME FOR THE CHARACTERS OR THEIR ACQUATANC; THEY’RE ALWAYS MEANT AS LIGHT ENTERTAMENT. SIARLY, STRAIGHT WHE WOMEN—LIKE THE BULK OF SEX AND THE CY’S WRERS—N OFTEN ACT AS ACPLIC AND AVATARS FOR THIS EXCLN. IN MANY WAYS, SEX AND THE CY ED THE MUCH-STEREOTYPED DYNAMIC OF IENDSHIP BETWEEN STRAIGHT WHE WOMEN AND GAY MEN TO PROP UP SELF-ASSUREDLY IGNORANT WORLDVIEWS.IT’S THIS AGE-OLD MIX OF GAY PATRIARCHY AND WHE SUPREMACY THAT ADDS A LAYER OF TREPIDATN TO ANYONE ANTICIPATG HBO’S LIMED-SERI REVIVAL OF THE SHOW. STAR, NOW HELMG THE POPULARLY HATE-WATCHED EY PARIS, IS OUT, WHILE KG, WHO WROTE AND DIRECTED SATC’S CRILLY MALIGNED BUT LUCRATIVE FILM SEQUELS, IS . STAR AND KG WORKED ALONGSI EACH OTHER FOR YEARS ON THE ORIGAL SERI; THE TERIM, KG PRODUCED THE CBS S 2 BROKE GIRLS, WHICH RECEIVED CRICISM FOR BLATANT RACISM. THE SKILL WILL TAKE TO ISSUE A REBOOT THAT IS SELF-AWARE WHOUT BEG SELF-NSC REQUIR MORE THAN EXPERIENCE OR SELF-HELP REVELATNS—IMAGATN IS SENTIAL.BUT AND JT LIKE THAT… WILL BE A H CREATN, EXISTG FIRMLY THE PRENT—A PRENT WHERE, FOR EXAMPLE, CYNTHIA NIXON IS NOW MARRIED TO A WOMAN AND THE MOTHER TO A TRANS CHILD. IT’S UNLIKELY THAT SHE, AT LEAST, WOULD SIGN ONTO AND JT LIKE THAT… IF S SCRIPTS WERE AS VALIER ABOUT QUEER ISSU AS THE ORIGAL SERI SO OFTEN WAS. COULD A REPRISAL FORCE KG TO EXAME HOW HIS CHARACTERS’ FLAWS WERE OFTEN ROOTED AN ANTI-QUEER MENTALY? OR WILL THE NEW SERI SIMPLY PAPER OVER THE SHOW’S HISTORY BY MAKG CARRIE, MIRANDA, AND CHARLOTTE PARAGONS OF MIDLIFE EMOTNAL AND MORAL GROWTH? PERHAPS, THE END, OUR FAN FICTN ABOUT A LBIAN NEW YORK ERNOR MIRANDA HOBB ULD E TO UN—AS AN DIENCE-PANRG PLOT THAT ATON FOR SEX AND THE CY’S PAST SS.MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR— INSI BRIDGERTON’S SEXY, MORN MAKEOVER OF THE REGENCY PERD DRAMA— BORAT’S MARIA BAKALOVA HAD A SWEET RNN WH JEANISE JON— TA FEY AND ROBERT CARLOCK WRTLE CLUMSILY WH POLICS MR. MAYOR— BLAZG BLON BOMBSHELL: BARBARA PAYTON’S BOULEVARD OF BROKEN DREAMS— BRYAN CRANSTON DANC WH THE DEVIL YOUR HONOR— MEET BRIDGERTON’S DREAMBOAT DE, REGé-JEAN PAGE— STEPHEN COLBERT ANSWERS THE PROT QUTNNAIRE— FROM THE ARCHIVE: SAN SIMEON’S CHILD— NOT A SUBSCRIBER? JO VANY FAIR TO RECEIVE FULL ACCS TO AND THE PLETE ONLE ARCHIVE NOW.MOST POPULARVANY FAIR’S “IT’S RAG TEENS” COVER AT 20: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?BY SAVANNAH WALSHRED, WHE & ROYAL BLUE MAY BE “THE MOST EXPENSIVE B OF FAN FICTN EVER”BY SAVANNAH WALSHTHE CAST OF OPPENHEIMER AND THE REAL PEOPLE THEY PLAYBY HILLARY BISCASSIE DA COSTA

The classic edy has a terrible track rerd on queer issu, pecially for a show wrten by women and gay men. * sex and the city gay couple *

Though that approach was well-sued to a story about proudly imperfect women, the show also ed as a cheap exce to center a very specific viewpot: straight whe affluence, as wrten by straight whe women and gay whe those who still watch the origal seri whenever they’ve got five hours to waste away on the uch, ’s not hard to acknowledge s wrongheadns while enjoyg s tenacy and extreme watchabily. News of a reboot, though, v to rensir the show’s tone and ias—and often, Sex and the Cy’s jib took the form of homophobia and transphobia. Stanford (Willie Garson), Carrie’s token gay male iend, was more of an accsory than a person; the send Sex and the Cy movie, he end up marryg the anchise’s only other gay male regular, even though his future hband once chastised his iend Charlotte for assumg he’d even be terted Stanford.

(“Why, bee he’s gay and I’m gay? Her iends’ sly, self-centered mentary about her new relatnship—that Samantha was simply a phase, that she was dog this for attentn—was amed not as gossip, but those outsi of queer muni, such a readg may e as a surprise; how uld Sex and the Cy get gay people so wrong? How uld s openly gay wrers—primarily creator Darren Star and executive producer Michael Patrick Kg—sorely misreprent a group they’re a part of?

IS UNUPLED THE GAY SEX AND THE CY?

But ’s old news to note that (ually upper-class) whe gay men have a served reputatn for takg nservative and even bigoted posns about their trans, Black, lbian, or fat brethren, actg as if a mix of self-hatred and disda of the Other is a charmg personaly tra.

In many ways, Sex and the Cy ed the much-stereotyped dynamic of iendship between straight whe women and gay men to prop up self-assuredly ignorant ’s this age-old mix of gay patriarchy and whe supremacy that adds a layer of trepidatn to anyone anticipatg HBO’s limed-seri revival of the show. One of thg that fans have noticed is the teractns Cynthia Nixon's character Miranda is havg wh some new st members, and jt how gay those teractns one scene, appears that Miranda is havg a one-on-one dner wh Che Diaz, the queer and nonbary podster and standup edian played by Out100 ver star Sara Ramirez.

NETFLIX’S UNUPLED: GAY SEX, THE CYDARREN STAR’S NEW SERI HARKENS BACK TO A CLASSIC, WH A NEW SP. BY RICHARD LAWSONJULY 27, 2022SARAH SHATZ/NETFLIXSAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVELAST YEAR’S AND JT LIKE THAT SHIFTED THE GAZE OF THE WATERSHED SERI SEX AND THE CY EVER SO SLIGHTLY. THE ORIGAL GANG WAS OLR; ONE WAS MISSG; AND SOME NEW IENDS HAD ARRIVED TO PLITE THE PARTY. WHILE SEX AND THE CY CREATOR DARREN STAR WASN’T VOLVED WH AND JT LIKE THAT, HE PERHAPS WANTED TO DO SOME RIFFG OF HIS OWN, AS EVINCED BY THE NEW NETFLIX SERI UNUPLED (JULY 29). IT’S A SHOW THAT NCERNS THE SAME FASCATNS AS STAR’S LANDMARK SERI—NEW YORK CY, ROMANCE, REER—ONLY OM A GAY PERSPECTIVE.EXPLICLY, DIRECTLY GAY, THAT IS. SATC AND AND JT LIKE THAT, WHILE MOSTLY ABOUT STRAIGHT WOMEN, ARE VERY MUCH FILTERED THROUGH A GAY LENS, THOUGH THE GAY CHARACTERS—CHIEFLY, NEBBISHY STANFORD AND HARPG ANTHONY—ARE OFTEN MERE PLOT FUNCTNARI. NOT SO ON UNUPLED, WHICH PUTS A GAY MAN, FORTY-SOMETHG MICHAEL (NEIL PATRICK HARRIS), ONT AND CENTER. STAR, WH -CREATOR JEFEY RICHMAN, BORROWS SATC’S EPISODIC DATG FORMAT AND ROLLS UP WH THE AGG ANXIETY OF AND JT LIKE THAT, ALL THE GASSY MIDDLE-YEARS JOK ABOUT THE SWIFT ENCROACHMENT OF TECHNOLOGY AND NEW SEXUAL, SOCIAL, AND POLIL NORMS. BUT UNUPLED DO SO LIGHTLY, WH A FLICK OF THE WRIST AND A SLOSH OF CHAMPAGNE. UNUPLED IS TOPIL S REFERENC, BUT A FLTERED, RNY WAY, MUCH LIKE STAR’S OTHER NETFLIX SERI, EY PARIS. THOSE SEEKG A MORN VERSN OF NEW YORK CY SELF WILL BE UNSATISFIED. THIS IS STILL A TELEVISN MANHATTAN THAT TURNS S NOSE UP AT BROOKLYN, THAT IS ALLERGIC TO THE SUBWAY, THAT HOLDS DOWNTOWN AS A PLACE FOR HIP RTRANTS AND GALLERI BUT NOT SUABLE FOR SOPHISTITED LIVG. MICHAEL IS A HIGH-END REAL TATE AGENT, SO THE SHOW SPENDS A LOT OF TIME TALKG ABOUT PROPERTY AND NEIGHBORHOODS A WAY THAT IS HERMETILLY REMOVED OM THE REALI OF TODAY. (FOR ALL BUT A PREC, TERRIBLE FEW NEW YORKERS, ANYWAY.) THERE IS, Y, A PERVERSE PLEASURE TO UNUPLED’S BLHE DULGENCE, THE GUILTY THRILL OF SPENDG TIME A WORLD WHICH MONEY IS BOTH NO OBJECT AND THE ONLY OBJECT. THIS DO PROVE GRATG AS THE SERI WEARS ON, THOUGH. WHERE UNUPLED SEEKS NOVATN IS S ROMANTIC ENTANGLEMENTS, DLY SOCLOGIL AND, OFTENTIM, SEXUALLY ANK. JT BEFORE A SURPRISE 50TH BIRTHDAY FOR MICHAEL’S PARTNER OF 17 YEARS, COL (TUC WATKS), THE BIRTHDAY BOY TELLS MICHAEL THAT HE’S LEAVG THE RELATNSHIP. THIS SENDS MICHAEL TO A TAILSP—AND ONTO APPS LIKE GRDR, WHERE HE NONTS A GAY DATG WORLD VASTLY DIFFERENT OM THE ONE HE KNEW BEFORE HE SETTLED FOR HIS LONG DOMTIC SPELL WH COL. THEIRS WASN’T AN OPEN RELATNSHIP, WHICH PUTS MICHAEL AT A DISTANCE OM A LOT OF GAY MEN A OR SO HIS JUNR. THE ADVENT OF PREP HAS HELPED CREATE A SEXUAL LANDSPE UTTERLY FOREIGN TO MICHAEL, THOUGH HE IS AT LEAST FAIAR WH MANY ENDURG HANGUPS OF HIS PARTICULAR I: THE TENSNS OF TOP AND BOTTOM, BEAR AND TWK, DADDY AND, WELL, NOT DADDY. WHILE THE DISURSE UNUPLED IS WELL TROD ALREADY, IS AT LEAST SOMETHG DIFFERENT TO SEE THOSE NVERSATNS PLAY OUT A ROM TV SERI ABOUT MIDDLE-AGE.  AS MICHAEL MEETS A HOST OF MEN ON HIS JOURNEY TOWARD HEALG (PRETTY MUCH A NEW GUY PER EPISO, LIKE THE OLD SATC DAYS!), HIS SIKICK IENDS UNRGO THEIR OWN MISADVENTUR. HIMBO WEATHERMAN BILLY (EMERSON BROOKS) SPENDS HIS TIME BED-HOPPG AND DATG DOWN ON THE AGE SLE. THE SHOW TEAS HIM FOR THAT, BUT MOSTLY AVOIDS OUTRIGHT SHAMG; HIS CHOIC ARE AMED MUCH THE SAME WAY THAT SAMANTHA JON’S WERE. MAYBE BILLY IS PHG TE LOVE AWAY WH ALL HIS EMOTNLS NOODLG, BUT ALSO, WHO R? STANLEY (BROOKS ASHMANSKAS) IS, AS HIS NAME WOULD SUGGT, MORE OF A SQUARE, A LONELY ART ALER WHO’S EVER SELF-PRETG ABOUT HIS AGE, HIS LOOKS, HIS FAILED ATTEMPTS AT FDG A MATE. AGA, THOUGH, UNUPLED IS REFUL WH S RITURE. OR MAYBE ’S JT ASHMANSKAS, WHO LENDS THOUGHTFUL SHADG TO EVEN THE GROANIT, MOST PATHETIC OF L.HARRIS, FOR HIS PART, IS BT WHEN THGS GET A LTLE SER: WHEN MICHAEL AND COL BICKER THE FALLOUT OF THEIR BREAKUP, OR WHEN MICHAEL HAS SOME SAD EPIPHANY ABOUT THE SUDN SHAPE OF HIS LIFE. HIS BROAR EDY IS STIFF—HARRIS IS NOT THE LIGHTT OF PRENC, SO HE HAS TROUBLE WH THE SHOW’S ZANIER, GOOFIER MATERIAL. ESPECIALLY NTRAST TO TISHA CAMPBELL, WHO PLAYS MICHAEL’S BS PARTNER, SUZANNE. CAMPBELL IS A DYNAMIC PERFORMER OWED A B MORE THAN SHE GETS HERE, THOUGH THE SHOW DO EVENTUALLY GIVE HER A SHRED OF A STANDALONE PLOT. SHE ALSO HAS A FEW JNTY SCEN WH MARCIA GAY HARN, WHO PLAYS (ON OLD-PRO TOPILOT) A SNOBBY ZILLNAIRE DIVORCéE LOOKG TO REPAIR HER LIFE JT AS MICHAEL IS. FOR ALL OF S CLUNK AND CREAK, UNUPLED IS AN AGREEABLE WATCH. IT’S DARG ENOUGH A FEW PLAC TO FEEL WORTHY OF S ERA, WHILE PROVIDG THE EASY, BRA-ANG, TRAPPED--AMBER ENJOYMENT THAT HAS BEE A HALLMARK OF STAR’S WORK. (IT SHOULD BE SAID, THOUGH, THAT SEX AND THE CY WAS, AT S PEAK, ACTUALLY QUE STIMULATG.) IN THE STTERED MOMENTS WHEN UNUPLED’S SLAPDASH TOPILY AND HOARY STEREOTYP GIVE WAY TO A JAG OF GENUELY SHARP WRG, THE SERI SWELLS TO F S PEDIGREE. THE SHOW ISN’T SEX AND THE CY, BUT NOTHG WILL EVER BE.WE’D PROBABLY DO WELL TO TAKE HEED OF UNUPLED’S MSAGE, THEN. TO STOP ALL OUR ELS PG FOR AN OLD LOVE WE N NEVER GET BACK. AND TO ENGAGE SOME HALFHEARTED FLIRTATN WH SOMETHG NEW AND—MAYBE, JT MAYBE—GOOD ENOUGH FOR NOW.MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR“IT’S RAG TEENS” AT 20: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?THE BT TV SHOWS OF 2023, SO FARSEX TOYS, FANCIAL CRIM, AND THE ORIG OF BARBIETHAT SOUND YOU HEAR IS DONALD TMP SCREAMG, CRYG, AND THROWG UP A MAR-A-LAGO BATHROOMIVANKA TMP IS NOT LETTG HER DAD’S MOUNTG LEGAL WO RU HER SUMMERINSI THE ACTORS STRIKE PRS APOLYPSE: “THE CELEBRY FACTORY HAS SHUT DOWN”IS ALL THIS AMATR THERAPY-SPEAK JT MAKG US LONELIER?FROM THE ARCHIVE: TOO HEPBURN FOR HOLLYWOOD (2006)MOST POPULARVANY FAIR’S “IT’S RAG TEENS” COVER AT 20: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?BY SAVANNAH WALSHRED, WHE & ROYAL BLUE MAY BE “THE MOST EXPENSIVE B OF FAN FICTN EVER”BY SAVANNAH WALSHTHE CAST OF OPPENHEIMER AND THE REAL PEOPLE THEY PLAYBY HILLARY BISRICHARD LAWSON

They have fely ma Miranda gay.

Grey, gay and fabulo! 1636741465Maybe Che is takg Miranda to her first gay bar? "However, we know that Ramirez's character will be queer and nonbary, and the scene wh their character and Miranda is keepg our gay hop Jt Like That premier December 9 on HBO Max.

You uld ll a midlife crisis for the both of them; Col sudnly feels stuck his fortable life, while Michael mt now reckon wh beg newly sgle a cy where the petive gay datg scene favors the young, f, and trendy. Specifilly, mak them a lot gayer. It’s how they eventually meet Claire (Marcia Gay Harn), a wealthy—and licly uptight—hoewife who cis to sell her lavish apartment uptown after her hband leav her.

IS SEX AND THE CY GAY?

There’s the feisty gay twk at work, Tyler, who is nstant petn wh Michael over listgs; Billy and Stanley also only seem to exist to serve Michael’s storyl, often lackg the pth and charm that the SATC gals had. But what Unupled do succeed at is makg a mastream edy show totally gay, whout beg forcibly “woke” or chey.

WHY "SEX AND THE CY" IS BAD FOR THE GAYS

When Miranda reveals that she and Che had md-blowg sex ( her words, "a fger"), Charlotte wonrs if her iend is sudnly gay, bluntly ncludg, "You are not progrsive enough for this! Today "a popular mastream show like Morn Fay n show a gay fay lovgly and whout judgment, " said Hardy, who grew up at a time when same-sex sexualy was agast the law. NBCIn the 1980s, The Goln Girls laid the foundatn for women talkg openly about sual sex and gay issu -- even topics like AIDS -- on mastream televisn.

"That's why Sex and the Cy was nsired cuttg-edge and revered by so many, cludg gay and queer men, acrdg to Jabs. The seri -- which had gay creators and wrers -- me out the shadow of the AIDS crisis, when many people eply feared the nsequenc of beg sexually active. "It reprented my hort this fantasy of eedom that we didn't really have, " he lors of the rabow, but no spectmThough Sex and the Cy had a large queer followg, the show approached LGBTQ characters wh stereotyp and tokenism: Carrie's gay btie, Stanford, is more of a ratn than an pennt person wh lived experienc, and bisexualy is prented as mere experimentatn and nfn.

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