You’re Not Gay: Homosexualy Anxiety OCD - OCD Rource Center

Contents:

• I'M AAID THAT I'M GAY
• 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
• AM I NVCG MYSELF THAT I'M GAY!??
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• WORRIED I MIGHT BE GAY
• I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
• AM I GAY?
• 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
• IS MY BOYIEND GAY? OR IS IT MY ANXIETY?

I'M AAID THAT I'M GAY

However, what I am ncerned about is that he is g me as a steppg stone to acknowledgg to himself that he is gay, or that he wants to be a heterosexual relatnship orr to reap the social benefs (havg kids, generally beg accepted society, etc. I’m worried bee (a) he’s never been wh a man before and beg wh me means he won't get that experience (assumg he don't cheat) and (b) he om an extremely relig fay the South who would likely not be able to accept his homosexualy (or even bisexualy). I'm worried that we will spend years together, possibly get married, have kids, and then he will e to grips that he is fact actually gay.

17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)

I have a very strong sneakg spicn that he’s bidg his time until his parents die or until he cis that he's gog to e out to them as I stay wh him and thk about a future, knowg full well that he uld tell me one day that he's actually gay and wants to be wh a man, or that he wants to transn, and leave me wh a bunch of baggage, such as gettg a divorce (sharg ctody of kids, fanc), and time/energy/effort lost? After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around.

AM I NVCG MYSELF THAT I'M GAY!??

The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him?

He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual. ”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well. He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay.

WORRIED I MIGHT BE GAY

His fantasi volve menA of heterosexual men have sexual fantasi volvg other men, and don’t mean they are gay. So if your boyiend has a lot of gay iends, uld be bee he’s subnscly tryg to surround himself wh people like urse, plenty of straight guys have gay iends as well.

But if seems like the majory of his social circle is gay, uld be a sign that he’s stgglg wh his own sexualy. He has a gay datg app on his phoneEven if he hasn’t actually ed the app to hook up wh guys, he’s obvly cur and may be thkg about dog so the future. Keep md that havg a datg app on his phone don’t mean he’s cheatg on you, but you serve to know if he’s actively lookg for other signs your boyiend is gayIt’s jt as important to unrstand all the signals that uld mistakenly lead you to believe your boyiend is gay.

I’M MALE AND I AM AAID THAT I MIGHT BE GAY

He sounds gayYou might have heard that gay men often speak wh a lisp, but this stereotype is pletely unte.

If your boyiend cri durg sad movi or gets upset about issu that are important to him, don’t mean he’s gay. He uld jt be touch wh his to do if you thk your boyiend is gayOkay, so you’ve noticed some of the signs that your boyiend might be gay.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

It’s possible he’s been wantg to have this nversatn wh you but hasn’t had the urage to brg though you may have seen many of the behavrs on this list, don’t throw them his face as a list of ‘evince’ that he’s secretly gay. Don’t prsure himWhether your boyiend is gay, straight, or somethg between, he’ll need time to procs his feelgs.

If your boyiend adms he’s gay, will be a difficult time for both of you and there’s no gettg past the fact that your relatnship is over. Some people even fall to the trap of thkg they were such a bad partner they somehow ‘turned’ their partner gay. Move on wh your lifeBreakups are always tough, but fdg out your boyiend is gay is a particularly difficult suatn.

It’s really no different om a heterosexual guy havg a preference for blons over big mistake you need to avoid is thkg that he’s still nfed or explorg his sexualy and will eventually e out as beg gay. I jt feel so nfed bee logil facts pot to a no, but I'm CONVINCED that I'm gay and I jt don't know why I'm feelg this way right now.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all.

If on the other hand they happen to be homosexual they may obss about the possibily that they might really be straight. ” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight).

AM I GAY?

Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.

I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg.

Observg themselv for evince of “lookg, ” talkg, walkg, drsg, or gturg like someone who is eher gay or straight.

'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY

Compulsively reviewg and analyzg past teractns wh other men or women to see if they have acted like a gay or straight person. Readg articl on the ter about how an dividual n tell if they are gay or straight to see which group they might be most siar to. If I get sexual sensatns when viewg sexual material of an oppose orientatn do mean I am gay (or straight)?

IS MY BOYIEND GAY? OR IS IT MY ANXIETY?

Avoidg standg close to, touchg or bshg agast members of the same sex (or oppose sex if the sufferer is gay).

Not readg or lookg at vios news reports books or articl havg anythg to do wh gay people or other sexual subjects. Tryg to not look or act effemately (if a man), or a mascule way (if a woman), (or vice versa if the sufferer is gay). Not drsg ways that would make one look effemate (if a man), or mascule (if a woman), (aga vice versa if the sufferer is gay).

Avoidg associatg wh anyone who may be gay or who seems to lean that directn (if the sufferer is heterosexual).