The Velvet Rage: Overg the Pa of Growg Up Gay a Straight Man's World: Downs, Alan: 9780738210117: Books

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• THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD AUD CD – UNABRIDGED, JUNE 12, 2012
• THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD HARDVER – MAY 24, 2005
• THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD KDLE EDN
• THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD PAPERBACK – JANUARY 1, 2006
• THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD AUD CD – UNABRIDGED, JUNE 12 2012

THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD AUD CD – UNABRIDGED, JUNE 12, 2012

It really speaks to the re of what beg a gay man is.

Reviewed the Uned Stat on July 17, 2023Every gay man should read this book at least once, and every gay man should read this book every few years bee will ronate wh you different ways pendg on where you are life. Reviewed the Uned Stat on October 30, 2015Psychologist Alan Downs's gui to thentic livg for the gay male, "The Velvet Rage, " is a valuable self-help tool for gay men stgglg to break ee om a life of secury, self-loathg, and argu that most gay men suffer om a toxic self-image, one that stems om shame.

THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD HARDVER – MAY 24, 2005

Downs provis a lot of first-hand ttimony om other gay men as to how the pensatn tactics ultimately fail. Is ternalized homophobia or fear of sex wh men? Wh his practil skills sectn, "The Velvet Rage" n be a helpful therapy gui for the gay man.

Alan observ that gay men grow up a world where they were forced to hi themselv.

This was very te for me, Doctor Downs then asserts that also later life the gay man never velops their own thenticy & th is not able to experience real joy life, bee of toxic shame.

THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD KDLE EDN

The gay man then exhibs all the stereotypil behavrs that we all know gay men exhib, this is done to pensate for or avoid that shame which really don't.

Some thgs that the gay man do, some of which I had done myself, to avoid toxic shame are: their satiable taste for fast & fur sex, equally fast & fur relatnships wh men, the qut for the perfect body (their own or someone else's), the perfect sexual partner (of the moment), the perfect latt styl, the perfect rated home the perfect zip , the performg flawlsly at their perfect job, havg the the perfect social life wh their perfect iends, lastly the perfectly ddy nmng judgmental social behavrs that might be entertag for awhile but really don't serve anyone, least of all the man dog them.

Well, when the gay man don't get their way any of the above & a circumstance reveals any of those thgs above life that are not perfect, that one hair out of place, beg ught wearg last seasons fashns, or anythg that would reveal the gay man to be human & imperfect, out the ltle shame monster & the velvet rage.

THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD PAPERBACK – JANUARY 1, 2006

I know not all gay men exprs themselv the ways I mentned, but sadly many do. I’d say a mt read for all gay mal navigatg through the challeng of life this era.

I am gay and I don't f , but I don't thk is bee of shame. Mt read for gay men! Reviewed Canada on May 4, 2023This book is powerful and a mt-read for any gay men out there, you'll learn more than a few thgs about yourself:).

From Publishers Weekly Wh a tle that plays on Ja Jackson's epochal 1997 LP The Velvet Rope, and s anatomy of unmet sire, therapist Downs's book scrib the paradigmatic ways which early childhood molds the future liv of gay men: srned on the playground, disrpected by Dad, loved only by Mom until their first sex wh men. Through this mechanism of rejectn, gay men feel unlovable, rrpondgly angry and, he says, driven to heights of creativy and "fabulons"— addn to shoppg addictn and obssns wh fat, mcle and penis size— a bid to distract themselv om their ner shame. While many gay rears will fail to regnize themselv here, others will fd Downs's logic warmg and even genero.

THE VELVET RAGE: OVERG THE PA OF GROWG UP GAY A STRAIGHT MAN'S WORLD AUD CD – UNABRIDGED, JUNE 12 2012

Review "Those faiar wh gay men will fd a good al of hont reportg here.

Whout beg mdl, Downs, himself a gay man, wr movgly. There's no doubt that the men profiled this sober ll for "owng the jury" of growg up gay a straight world were helped by their unselg, or that there are certaly some rears who will fd their own liv reflected that healg.